I think the reason why non DIDers have not evolved into having DID is that they had someone to buffer the pain and the emotions. I guess perhaps chatting with us on the forum and making friends with common interest might help you achieve this. I'm going to join a womens health and wellbeing clinic which is a community run initiative in my area. The costs are low due to the volunteers. Perhaps there might be one in your community.
The problem is as children we were lead to believe my peoples attitudes and behaviours that how we felt did not matter, I guess I can't blame myself for going internal instead of being external...The things is the more I communicate with other people DID and Non DID I realise that we all have our baggage and being a human being is sharing those experiences and being compassionate.