I can see how you would be hurt & upset.
Do you think she has figured out this is troubling you & using it to her advantage? Especially since she is friends with your director.

It is so easy to second guess yourself, not think you tried hard enough, ect.
But you did try & she has issues, none of which are your fault.
Easy for us to arm chair quarterback. Just know you've been heard& believed.
This has triggered you, I'm glad you shared & got it off your chest.
Take it easy on yourself.