So were you moms aware of your bp and medicated? If not would that have made a difference? I feel like now that I am aware there is extra pressure to prove it wrong. A lot of guilt is my thing. I realize I'm being a meany, do something to try to counteract it, then end up being a meany again. My youngest has a possible mood disorder so we are at each other a lot. My oldest is a people pleaser and I know when he gets yelled at it goes straight to his heart.