Tomi, I don't have any words of wisdom for you either, but I do know how you're hurting. My brother has cut off all ties to my mom too, but it was because he did something stupid and he's probably too proud to admit that he was wrong, so he just keeps shutting her out. This has been going on for probably 15 years. It bothers her to this day. She tries to brush it off, but she's not doing a very good job of it since she brings it up just about every time we talk to each other. She asks me if he ever talks to me - he doesn't. He barely talks to my dad, and when he does it's to tell him what he's doing wrong.

I wish I could tell you to just let it go, but I know you can't. I know I couldn't.