either way it is hard to wate and i feel the insecurities vibe you are feeling.i don't know much about the boundary thing my T has very strong boundarys with me and i think i like that.maybe i'm in a very differnt place then you are.i do wish i had some majic words to take the anxiety away.it kind of sucks i mean in a way you just want to help her with her computer problems.i wish there didn't have to be so many boundary problems attached to it.