Oh dear god. I'm so sorry SeptemberMorn. I know such a situation breaks the mother’s heart. Can you try to talk to your son whenever possible to clear the air, without accusing his wife...? Just to show him you are civil and not the monster she’s made you out to be. Then maybe with time she will come around and *both* will see you are not the baddie here - or at least he will. It does seem like she feels threatened by you… Sorry, don’t know what to say just wish you strength. I know it’s hard, but don’t give up hoping for the best.