I didn't reply yesterday, Chopin, because I wasn't quite sure what to think of your interaction with your t. Today, I will have to agree that you may need to define boundaries once again. I know that you discussed the past and how your t handled you a few months ago. I remember many of the details from posts. Now your relationship has matured into something you don't know how to define, so if I was in your situation I would ask t to set boundaries again.
As for the computer issue, it is very kind of you and your husband to try to help. Did you think of directing her to youtube? I always am able to find a solution to any technical problem I have.
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