Just another thought. If my T had a problem I or my H could solve, I would JUMP at the chance. She has asked me something I know more about than she does, a couple of times, and I told her the answer, but that was a simple question. Still, I would jump at the chance because it would be something I shared with T, and maybe no one else did. I'd be more in her life. I would be happy, but it wouldn't help me in the long run.

I don't know if this relates to your situation or not, Chopin. I'm writing it, knowing intellectually, but still crying inside about my own relationship with my T.

farmergirl, your answer makes perfect logical sense except to someone like me and maybe Chopin.