Thanks for understanding.

I tried getting us both into therapy some years back. He charmed the therapist.

Right now, I'm trying to get him to take some form of physical therapy to slow down his decline. (He is having a lot of difficulty walking.) He is elderly and mobility-impaired. He is in chronic pain. Every trip out of his apartment is a major effort for him. Yet, he does it and runs his own errands much of the time. If a counselor asked him what kind of a change he would like to make, he'ld say "None."

Al-Anon taught me: I can't figure out what he should do . . . . . only what I should do. I was wise, I think, to get away and living on my own. And - yes - when he acts up like a cranky kid, I can say, "See ya later." and I do that.

I'm supposed to go to the bank and then to the pharmacy today. It's already hot because I wasted the morning. I just want to go back to bed. I'm a mess.