I am recently divorced. My ex-wife is currently in therapy and insists that I should be in therapy also. She has some fairly specific things to say about why: mostly communication issues and how I respond to being in emotional pain.

So, I've taken every online test under the sun, including The Sanity Score. I had a score of 42, with no unusually high sub-scores. No other test I took showed anything other than a slight tendency to depression and anxiety.

My family and friends says that they think I am just fine. My first wife says she thinks I am fine. They all believe I was in an abusive relationship and are thrilled that I am 7000 miles away from her.

I feel I am recovering reasonably well, and don't think there is much validity in what she says. I think there is one reason that I might need a therapist, but it is unrelated to what she said. I'll post about it on a different thread.

I know I haven't said much and it's really hard to judge based on what I have said, but should I pay any attention to what my ex-wife says? It would mean spending money that I simply don't have.