My ex-wife is the victim of fairly significant emotional abuse from her parents. She also appears to have Borderline Personality Disorder, though she is currently undiagnosed.

I was with my wife for six years. Three months ago I finally had the strength to break it off with her, and we are now divorced. We got a quickie-divorce in Europe where we were married.

I feel like I was abused during the relationship. Everyone I know says I was abused during the relationship.

But, now I find myself booked on a flight to see her. At the moment she is treating me pretty badly, yet I am still going. She's very angry that I "abandoned" her.

An odd thing: I ended things with her and tried to achieve non-contact but then she convinced me to go away together for 10 days just as the divorce was finalizing. It was the honeymoon we never had, and she was actually OK to me during that period. I want more of this and that is mostly what I am going for.

I am also curious to see what three more months of therapy has done for her.

Is this as bad of an idea as it sounds?