In the list of pros and cons - are any of them more valuable than others? For me, the not listening to the med thing would make me nuts and be a huge con, but porn, as long as he was not showing it to me, would not bother me at all. The meds are huge for me, not so much over meds, but because of not listening to me. The pro column seems to me to be sort of the minimum of what I expect from one of them. Do any of the pros stand out for you? Could you take a break from him and try another for a couple of months? I have found they are usually willing to see people again after breaks. Some even encourage trying a different person to see if it is more effective.