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Originally Posted by Perna
In my experience it was when I took myself seriously and quit belittling myself that I started to feel my power and self-worth and lots of the anxiety went away because it didn't "fit" anymore. My middle name was "Danaher" and I use to call myself "Damnither". It's not really cute/funny? If you don't respect yourself, why should the things that make you anxious?
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but it's really funny to hear her pronounce dipshit. I get what you are saying. I am usually the brunt of my own jokes.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
In the list of pros and cons - are any of them more valuable than others? For me, the not listening to the med thing would make me nuts and be a huge con, but porn, as long as he was not showing it to me, would not bother me at all. The meds are huge for me, not so much over meds, but because of not listening to me. The pro column seems to me to be sort of the minimum of what I expect from one of them. Do any of the pros stand out for you? Could you take a break from him and try another for a couple of months? I have found they are usually willing to see people again after breaks. Some even encourage trying a different person to see if it is more effective.
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I had to go back and look. Those are minimal expectations you think? wow. I have had such horrific t's before, this guy seems perfect in comparison. I think the biggest pro would be that he speaks to me as an equal. With my anxiety and speech problems most people don't see my intelligence. That means a lot to me. And that he already knows the history. Who wants to do that again? You are right, I can try someone else and then go back if it doesn't work. I have this habit of thinking of things as absolute.
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Originally Posted by Sannah
If anxiety is a major problem and his only solution is meds, maybe you do need a T with a larger tool box? I worked through my anxiety and now it is gone.
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The anxiety is the whole shabang. Its debilitating. So yea, more tools needed, quickly.