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Originally Posted by Perna
Discussing, with me, the person crying, why I am crying as well as using your perception to reveal to you what you are thinking and feeling about why you think I am crying is more apt to get you a better picture of why I am crying than you just going off and "deciding" I am crying because you perceive it?
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Perna, my childhood experience was that no one would tell me the truth if I asked what was happening. I found, and still often find, that asking someone to tell me the truth of what is happening is a futile exercise. In many cases the people themselves do not know why they do what they do, and will invent "reasons" and "justifications" that have nothing to do with the actual why.
An example: ask almost any politician why they are doing something. They will make up something, which explains why they are "right" but not why they actually do things. You cannot get the answer by asking -- you have to come to your own conclusions about the matter!
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I cannot say you do not feel love for me, no matter what you say or do, I can only say you have not illustrated your love for me in action sufficient for me to believe you. My perception that you do not love me is not the same as whether you do or not.
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But Perna, I
do love you! Tell me how I can demonstrate that to your satisfaction!
