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Originally Posted by sunrise
I am not sure on the porn question. You said he may have a porn issue. Many people watch porn but it is not an issue for them--they function quite well in all aspects of their lives. So is it that you know he watches porn or is it that you know he has an issue with it (e.g. is addicted)?
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Thanks so much sunrise, your well-thought response gives me a lot of food for thought. I quoted the porn part because I wanted to clarify for everyone, not just you.
I know he had porn contacts in his email. Quite a few. I don't know the extent or frequency of course. I realize a lot of men view porn, and this was a rather unfortunate occurrence for him, he lost several clients because of it. My issue is in the "knowing" he view(s)(ed) porn. It's icky to know that about t. Especially with the csa issues, especially with the breast cancer. It's a bell that cannot be unrung.
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Originally Posted by geez
Why specifically does he bring up the meds for anxiety? Is your anxiety getting in the way of something for you? If so can T give you some tools for coping with anxiety? Have you considered going on meds for anxiety just to try it out?
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thanks geez. My anxiety is EXTREME, to put it mildly. It prohibits me from doing just about everything. I was on anxiety meds (and other psych meds) for years and it took a heck of a lot to withdraw from them all. Months in fact. They are toxic. I will not take them again. The trade off is not worth it for me. (no offense to anyone who chooses to take them)