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Originally Posted by Perna
I would tell the parents about the noise (rather than start with a direct complaint about the child) and ask them to install carpeting in their space; that's not an unreasonable demand, most multi-story professional apartments require a certain degree of carpeting. That would get rid of some of the noise.
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My bf tried that already and i wasn't happy. He asked the father if he had heard any noises in the house because he was hearing alot of loud noise. Of course the father said no he heard nothing. I was pissed. I'm sorry but i feel we need to be direct. We all know where the noise is coming from and why everyone is at each others throats and we all know that they need to find away to control their child. I don't really know how to say that in a nice way. There is no way to sugar coat it. I cannot be subtle with them because they are already in deep denial and my avoiding them and trying not to confront them about it has not helped. Instead they are taking advantage and not doing a damn thing, not trying to keep her from following me, not telling her to stop making the noise, they do nothing. They have to be told that we know they are having some difficult times with their daughter and while we sympathize we cannot continue to live the way that we are. I cannot continue to be harrassed. They have to find a way to keep her from bothering me somehow. And since they don't have a clue how to do that they need to get professional help and advice on what to do and how to handle the situation. I know they are going to be offended and angry but i'm pretty angry myself because everyone is going on about their business while she tries her best to torment me and no one gives a hoot. They are going to have to figure out something or I am going to be a problem. It is not like she doesn't know what she is doing. She is well aware that she is annoying me, that is her mission. She is not happy unless i'm upset. I've had it. I know she is probably angry and frustrated with her life and i do feel for her that her parents don't know much about kids and what to do with them and how to guide them and teach them how to live. But she can't take her anger out on me. I have problems too. I'm sick of those 2 adults acting like they are afraid to tell her she can't do something for fear she'll have a tantrum. I tried to ignore this but it is out of control and i am paying rent i deserve to live here in peace. Again, i understand she has some behavior issues and they don't know how to get her to behave especially since they can't even punish her by taking something away. There is no TV, and i don't think they do anything up there except sit by the vent in my room and listen to my tv or listen to me and follow me around. She doesn't have friends and she doesn't go outside. How do you discipline her? Thats why they need professional advice. If they don't want to get the help and they continue to allow her to make my life miserable i am going to become a problem. I already go sit at the computer on purpose so she will bother them but its not interfering with their couple time because the mother stays in her bedroom. They are attached by the hip. Wherever the girl goes so does the mother. I already have the sound machine in the bathroom that i use and that makes them mad and if i leave the tv on too late that makes them mad but they still are not trying to stop her from bothering me. So i don't know what else to do. There are people on the floor over them but its their relatives so i guess they just deal with it because i know they have to hear everything too. I figured if i'm annoying everyone in the house maybe they will do something but you know what, i don't think they will. I just don't even know what to say about them anymore, i just get disgusted by the whole situation. Anyway i know everyone is sick of hearing it and i know i'm long winded so thanks for allowing me to vent since i can't vent to anyone else except my T once a week. Oh and by the way putting carpet down wouldn't solve anything because she will find another way to make noise. She already yells and makes sounds through the vent and she'll just start banging on that, or the walls and she follows me around and makes noise where ever i go in the house. She wants to upset me that is her main goal so she'll do other things to accomplish that. I feel sorry for her i really do that she has such meaness in her at such a young age. But her mom is the same way so. I just keep praying for her and for them. Because like everyone has said, i can't change anything.