I am more expert on myself than others are. Early in therapy, my T said to me, "only you know what you need to heal", and then he expected me to go for that and let him in on it so he could help me find that healing. This was really empowering to me, "T knows that I know what I need to heal!" and I believed him. I learned to look inside myself and move towards "healing". I did seem to know what moved me closer and what moved me further away. It surprised me that I knew, but I did. I had to get better at listening to what my insides knew. It did make a lot of sense that I would know a lot better than T what I needed to heal. How would he know? He just met me but I had known myself for decades. I have always felt very empowered by that statement of his and when I feel stuck in life or therapy I remember his words and look within.