I have a close friend who has a conviction for having a 14 year old girlfriend when he was around 30.

He spent a few years inside for that. He is one of the nicest people you could possibly meet. Their relationship was completely consenting. His biggest crime, imo, was stupidity. Of course he should not have intercourse with her. But he's pretty low risk according to the STATIC (was opposite sex partner, not under 12, first offence etc). However, when he got out of prison, he was literally screwed in terms of getting a job, etc. He is now back working in his (our) profession. It was a long hard battle because many companies won't take the risk and of course, his name is on that damn register.

Fourteen year old girls can be little Lolitas. I don't believe it's always a one way street. And it isn't fair to shame him for the rest of his life.