Thank you Dr. Skipper. What is the website? Also i dont think i could let a women use a strap on on me, if im with a woman i have to be in control. Its only in these fantasies that id like to have a man be in control. And it seems once i get the urges, and i massturbate, afterwards i feel glad i didnt act on the urges and i go back to being " myself " again. i know its strange, and confusing