You are so right, lands. Sometimes my mood swings make me very irritable, and what I try to do when I feel the irritation rising is to take a time out in another room. I am definitely not perfect, but when I make a mistake with my children I apologize. I, too, take away electronics when necessary.
My t knows 3 out of 4 of my children, and she says that she can see that ours is a very loving relationship both ways.