Please forgive me if I have no place in the conversation. I understand the way people fight. My family used to do alot of it. My brother in law had it out for me the day he fell in love with my sister. I never actually did anything for him to not care for me, (the way he did) The senseless things that they do to make enemies of other family members. It isn't fair. I lost my sister when I was young to my brother in law-who was up to no good-really. So I have great empathy for you Septmebermorn. I don't want to offend you. But there must be some creative way to shake her up or shake the dust and garbage out of that woman, after all they are your grandkids. I pray that something happens that makes the whole situation really change for the better. Razel