I don't mean to be hostile. we yell at H's on here who try to control what the wives say in MC. Why isn't it seen as something that bothered H, as his way of bringing something up? Why isn't he given the benefit of the doubt? Mkac can't control the FOO, wants to control the H, thinks T is controllable or doesn't need controlling, or something, maybe he's perfect? - I think that's the pattern here. Only saying this because I see myself so strongly in her ANALYSING the H. That has to be let go of. I wrote about that elsewhere today.