Sunny...Sometimes it just doenst work that way for some people... Wish it could. Boy do we wish it could. But our metabolism just isnt like some of yours is.. some of it is hereditery.. believe me .. I have proof of that in my family. Some of it is emotional eating because of depression and abuse issues and other times its a combination of things. Obese people dont need healthy people to tell us this is all we need to do... even though it may be that way.. but we need you to be understanding ,supportive and helpful about it thru the process. As easy as it was for those pounds to go on... its a thousand times harder for them to go off because your not only dealing with the physical aspects of it but the emotional and mental aspects of how they went on and how hard they are having to come off too. I hope this helps you to understand a little bit better of what 1day was trying to say. And 1 day I hope I didnt mince your words up. Your both good friends of mine. Luv you both. Take care~ Bethy