I do not think it is like that. You are living your life for you; no one else can live it, you get to make all the decisions. Self esteem is how "qualified" you feel for that job

If you are making decisions about your life based on what other people are telling you about you and your life, that indicates a lack of self esteem. If you are letting other people tell you how to live your life, that indicates a lack of self esteem. Other people having more influence with yourself than you do (getting angry or upset when other people give you their opinion, taking it as "fact" instead of opinion or being defensive about yourself) can indicate a lack of self esteem.

Self esteem is an expression of an inner truth about how you feel about yourself. You cannot fake it or get it "wrong", it just is. If you do not know yourself or do not think well of yourself, that will show, others will see you lack self esteem (you'll bad-mouth yourself, show lack of respect for yourself).