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Originally Posted by elliemay
At it's origin, though, I think self-esteem referred to the intrinisic birthright of a human being to have a sense of self, of boundaries, and of belonging.
Such that we can't be overhwelmed by the events around us, but are secure as a human being, having mass, occupying space, and with personal efficacy.
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I like this.
I think that for me, self-esteem implies a kind of self-acceptance. Recognizing that I have flaws and areas that need work AND that I have certain things that I'm good at, and accepting all of those truths about me.
When I have good self-esteem, I am able to be gentle with myself, forgive myself for mistakes, and work to do better. I can see the things I do well, and feel good about them.
When I have bad self-esteem, nothing I do is right, if I make a mistake, it feels like it speaks to my value as a human being, and I feel like everyone can just look at me and see how "bad" I am.
Therapy brought me a lot closer to good self-esteem. It's still hard, but I've tasted it, and there is a lot more peace for me there.
