An ADD coach sounds like a real good idea! Though I'm in a different situation than you-- being that it's my teenage son with ADD and not husband-- I can see where needing an "outside" person could help immensely. Advice, support and enforcing from the outside could be less personal to all involved.
I would hope it will take some of the tension and pressure off of both of you-- as a couple.

It's so hard to watch a loved one miss out on things because they're unable to prioritize and see the "big" picture. I feel so bad for my son and your husband-- it's such a struggle.

Please let us know how it goes-- if you guys get a "coach" and how it's working. I'd be really interested to hear. I worry for my son's future-- he's graduating this next spring and has no direction what so ever.....

Wish I could give you some eye opening advice LeeAnn. Hope knowing that some are here and are listening helps a little.