You must take care of yourself. It sounds like your BF is looking for an emotional whipping post and another momma. In marriage you must take care of each other with live and respect. If he can't talk to you now and calls your mom, sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do before he's ready to consider marriage. As for your families embarrassment, what the hell??!! If they love you unconditionally, they will want you to have a great marriage. Screw their embarrassment. That's the craziest thing I've ever heard. I think you can do better in picking a life partner. Never settle!! You'll regret it later!!