Thank you all for your support thru this stuff. I am going out to the rehab center now to deal with things hopefully for the last time . I have probably made the wrong decision for myself and for dad but monetary right now this is what needs to be. I looked a few things over.. my sisters and I did. And dad simply cannot afford to do 24 hr care right now.. if he should need it when he gets worse with the alzheimers down the line. I know that sounds stupid. But right now.. he is more of sound mind and where I can handle looking after him . And I plan on writing up a letter with the help of a good friend of mind to enlist family help on weekends. We will also get lifeline put in and meals on wheels . I am hoping that they will go for this plan when I go out to talk to them. I feel overwhelmed already ... but what can I do? Dad told me yesterday I got him in this mess I had to get him out. He sure as hell knows how to make me feel like that little girl again who feels threatened by his every word. And I am still the little gilr who wants to please her daddy. Why do I keep lettting him get away with this?