"embarrassment" can result in a so-called "honor killing", in shunning, in a woman being attacked and disfigured. Even in the West, not every woman enjoys Western freedoms, to love and associate with whom she chooses, to study where and what she wants, to travel and live independently, even to get medical care. Many of us take these things for granted; for others, it is truly a matter of life and death.

That a fiancé would report to the girl's family that she is behaving improperly - does she sound free, or does he sound entitled? I'm sorry, I don't mean to yell at you, john, because you are absolutely right - what is embarrassment? but the price women pay for it is often very steep. we lose everything. at an age when we are too young to understand what is being lost, or how to escape, and when we are too easily fooled by those who claim to love us.