I like to use the term healthy self esteem. If I do something bad to someone I need to feel bad about myself. If I'm doing alright then I need to feel alright about myself. I'm thinking that most, if not all the people who feel bad about themselves, it isn't an accurate assessment. Kids grow up feeling bad about themselves because they have absorbed bad messages from the unhealthy people who have been around them.
Finding those messages and working through them to discover if they are true or not is the route to getting healthy self worth.
People who have healthy self worth don't think about it. They go about their day just doing what they need to do and the their value rarely crosses their minds.
There are people with too much self esteem. You know those people when you come across them.
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Originally Posted by Readytostop
Do I have value in and of myself? I've always thought of my value in relation to who I am and what I do for other people. For instance, most of the time I think I'm an okay mom and I"m an pretty good accountant...
Sometimes I don't think I actually exist......sometime i feel like I'm just a robot with no feeling or thoughts of my own.
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Good stuff ^ to discuss in session, especially how you got this way.