Im 32 and I found out a friend from high school and my church died suddenly. He was a close friend of the family, and even though he was a trouble maker and made fun of me (I think he liked me when we were little) he was a great kid. He even used to tie my hair in nots and stuff at school...it's kinda funny.

Anyhow, he was supposed to get married next month and his fiancé found him passed away yesterday morning in his apartment. No one knows what happened. His dad passed away suddenly when we were in college so it could be genetic or something.

I'm upset and sad for his family. My mom sent me the obituary, since I don't live in town anymore. I'm an hour and a half away. Idk if I should go to the wake or funeral, which is at the church we grew up in. It's so sad. Do I go? I don't think his family will miss me if I'm not there but it would be nice to go and say goodbye and give my condolences. I would be a drive, for sure, but I should go.

The other thing to consider is that I'm not in a very good spot emotionally right now. Idk how upsetting it might be for me. But is that selfish? The wake isn't about me...it's about him and his family....I should suck it up and go. Or no? Idk what to do. So sad. Sending the family a card at the least...help!