My parents did the same thing, just in a different way. It took me a long time to see that their need to make me feel guilt for wanting to leave (or wanting anything different to what was) was simply that - their need to make me feel something. I didn't need to feel guilty because I *was* guilty - THEY needed me to feel guilty so I would stay and the status quo would not be challenged.

From what you have said I see the same dynamic in your situation, but I know from experience how hard it is to understand that what you feel (guilt) isn't deserved. It took me a long time to really understand that, but when I finally did I was 'free'. (Free in my case meant free to leave without guilt, free to cut off all contact without guilt, and eventually free to renegotiate contact on MY terms and with MY rules - and those rules exclude abuse, guilt tripping and manipulation of any sort.)

My hope for you is that one day you may come to a place of personal empowerment too.