hi
i have been a parent for 19 years and with my wife for the same amount of time.we have 4 children this is about one of them my oldest daughter 18 years old there is no easy place to start so i'll cover some of what was going on in our life like the last 6 months but this has been going on years 5 or more.i my self have been subject to verbal,physical and emotional abuse as have the rest of us.
this is when it come to its peak.my daughter left school age 17 she got full time work in a charity shop 6 days a week 8.30am to 5.00pm.all seemed fine for a few months until someone in the shop betrayed her trust or so we thought at the time.any way being a parent you ask whats wrong and going on,she told me this person tried to mind wash and crawled under her skin is the words she used and has told everyone my secrets.so i asked why would she do this to you i just don't know was the answer i got.so i started to text her in the mornings to ask if she was ok as she was out the house before i got up she would text back i'm fine or just had an argument with you know who.in the end up the other person lost there job all should be ok well not really i started to get facebook messages from that person saying shes ours now we can do what we want with her and the other messages were much the same.so like any good parent i would spend time talking to my daughter after work just to make sure she was ok and not being hurt or anything else.one day she said her boss was getting threatening messages off her ex-husband her boss and her were close as good friends go she was the one that fired the other person.anyway a week later she told me her boss had run over her ex-husband in the car and knocked him down and is now in hospital in a coma another week passed and i thought it was kinda funny she was not charged with anything.so i talked to another person in the shop where she works about this and they said the ex-husband was fine and was not in or had been to hospital.mean while we are giving her money and cigarettes everyday and we were finding it hard going forking out £80 a week for her habit.then we found out she was getting £30 a week EMA money which she never told us about.it come to the point we could not do it anymore and said we need to talk about the money problems we were having.a week past she would say if you loved me you would buy my cigarettes for me and give me money without cigarettes life is not worth living.mean while she was fighting with her bother and sister like always in the mornings before they went to school but it got so bad this time we had to send her bother away for a week to his grand mothers things did calm down after that.one sunday i thaught my 14 year old daughter some songs on guitar which took most of the day we had fun doing it,i did not see anything wrong with it.but my other daughter gave me the cold shoulder for 4 days after it,i would ask what was wrong she said nothings wrong.i asked her again day later she said you were spending time with my wee sister it felt like you did not love or wont me you pushed me to the side,i was stuned at what she said i told her to stop being silly it was just one day i played guitar how could you think that she seemed fine with that.another week passed and i really could not afford cigarettes so i thought i would get her hand rolling tobacco to be kind and not give her anything at all big mistake she got very angry about it.few hours passed she walked out of work and went with a friend to another town with out telling her boss anything.so i left it to 5pm and i got a text from her saying i'm going to my friends after work i knew what had happened at work so i text back no you need to come home and talk about whats going on,she sent back a text saying i'm going anyway.so i sent back a text saying you really need to talk about what happened today at work,she sent back a text saying i'm going to stay at my friends sisters for the night,i sent back you really need to talk about it running away is not going to solve anything,she sent one back saying fine i'm going for a week then it was get mum to pack my stuff i'm leaving.2 days later she was telling everyone i had chucked her out of the house and she made a new facebook account so she could send messages from her old one to cover here story even though they clearly say they were from her old account on the top of them.that's not bad enough she knew all the passwords to mine and the other kids accounts as we did not have secrets from each other,well it took us nearly a 2 week to find out she had been on them and was sending messages to her new account saying what ever she wanted them to say.28 days later she has turned all our family against us and has made our life's hell.

as i said this started 5 years ago she started staying off school so she could hang out with her friends 24/7 i never found out for nearly a year she was taking drugs having sex and drinking 13 years old at the time.but my wife did and she cheated on me with the stress and worry of this whole thing she could not tell me as it had been going on so long but we got back together.
soon as my daughter found out her mum cheated on me she said throw her out and has done over the last 5 years about 2 to 3 times a month.this is when i have been subject to verbal,physical and emotional abuse she would punch or kick me in the testicles swear at me spit on me and rip her nail down my back or bite me on the arms or hands not just me but my other kids as well.she would never say love you back to you if anyone of us said it first.she has said she hates our other kids and wishes she was our only one.we took and got her help with all this but day after day it was lies upon more lies from her we found out it was her that sent the facebook messages not the other person we all so found out she nearly got the shop shut down with her lies and behavior the shop owners are taken it all the way to court it was that bad.and now we have to pickup the pieces and try and live through this i'm only 40 years old and already have had two heart attacks with not eating sleeping the stress the worry.