I agree with EloquentD, fear can be a good thing. Fear can give me the adrenaline shot I need to focus. I lived 43 years in an ADD Fog and always thought it was just me, not quite the same as most people. I knew I was fairly smart, but just could not react in "Real Time" as well as others. Fear could make me focus. What a difference a diagnosis can make... Now my meds pretty much make up for reacting in Real Time and understanding my condition helps me deal with things.

I totally understand all of the self-questioning, especially concerning work. When I get assigned a project the first phase is always the Overwhelm phase. I question myself, the project and just don't know where to start. It's the totallity of the whole project that gets me. I finally realize that I don't have to know every step required for the project to start, just the first step and a base idea of where I need to end up. Fear of not being able to complete a project gets me through the panic filled beginning phase.

My fears of what people expect of me can be quieted when I realize that the people requesting my projects have No Idea how to do these things. This give me a little shot of self confidence that I need. Sometimes just asking a few questions from these people help me understand their frame of mind, keeping me from assuming the worst

I think it is good to be a little afraid, you don't want to be un-afraid and get caught off guard