I think that you don't need her in your life and she don't need you.

I also think that you should concentrate on yourself right now. You are going through a seperation with your husband and now you have to adjust to your new situation.

I also think that communication should stay open for you and your son. But just between you two. No talking about her, no mentionning her. You have your own life away from him and he has his own life away from you. Surely there is things interesting to talk about between you and your son without putting her name in the picture.

I really do believe that if you do this that with time your son will be again confortable enough with you to bring his child to your home. She doesn't have to come and you don't have to go to her home.

There is some relationship that is not meant to be.

I love you (((((((((Tomi)))))))))