I confronted and no it didn't go well at all. But I do know of one situation in which the conforntation went well.

I helped a 16 year old girl who showed up on my doorstep after I had spoke at her school. basically what happened was that because she was 16 she was able to choose where she wanted to live so the teen and I went to the local DHS and because they had already dealt with a sister of hers we were able to place her with her sister without alot of problems. her parents came to me looking for her and I told them to meet us at the local DHS office where we would be the next day getting her set up for foodstamps. Then I called the DHS caseworker and the teen and I arranged for the caseworker to be present and keep an eye out for her parants. we got there the next day. her parents were already there so we went into the caseworkers office and they tried to talk her into going home. She looked at him and said the only way she would return home was if her father turned himself in and got help. he tried to play dumb and she looked right at him and said you did this this and this to me you have one more child at home do you really think after both me and my sister left they are going to let you keep her and do the same. you need help and Im not coming home until you do what's right and I will take (sisters name) to live with (older adult sisters name) too. The father looked at the caseworker and said ok what do I need to do. He was arrested for sexual abuse of the 16 year old, spent a year in prison during which time the rest of the family got therapy and so on. When the father was released from prison one of his parole conditions was that he could not be in the company of minors without supervision and remain in therapy for a minimum of 5 years.

If you are thinking of confronting my advice is not to base how your confrontation will be on the above situation. Good outcomes are very rare and few.

out of all the times where I helped teens out of bad situations this was the only one in which it went well. and I believe that if we hadn't had the evidence of her older sister still on file and the evidence that we gathered (physical exam, pictures and so on) of that parents recent abuse of the teen he probably would not have given in so easily.

If you are thinking of confronting then find the worse case scenerio and prepare yourself for that. Then if it does not end up being a worse case scenerio you are good to go and if it does end up being the worse case scenerio then you are prepared for anything that could possibly happen.

When I confronted I was threatened with bodily harm, threatened with arrest for slander and libel, threatened with being committed to a mental health unit, I called everything in print and then some, my friends were also threatened with harm, arrest and so on as was the therapy agency, and anyone else I had contact with during that time frame.

If you are planning to confront please be safe. Take time to plan out where and when. If there is a possibility of harm to you arrange to disclose in a public place, your therapist office, at a police station, DHS building, a crisis center and so on so that the risk of harm to you will not be immediate and you will have a change to get away. A friend of mine set up her disclosure in her therapist office and then went directly from the therapy office into a domestic violence shelter and through their underground network of shelters and so on gained freedom from her abuser.

good luck and take care.