I don't have any great advice for you. I wish I did. But I can TOTALLY relate to what you are going through. I gained a lot with pregnancy. I am glad you have a mantra that helps. I am sorry your family is laughing at you and saying those things. That has to be soooo hard hearing that, because it probably just feeds into your negative self-talk. (i apologize if i am wrong in that, but I know that 's how I feel when my family says things to me)

I can honestly say I don't know if it gets better, but when you hold your little one, it does feel better, I know I felt proud that I was able to ignore the devil inside telling me that I was fat and disgusting, and make this happy healthy little baby.

I know that probably doesn't help. But I went through it twice, and I know what you are going through. Feel free to post and vent anytime.