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Old Jul 30, 2012, 02:11 PM
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Learning to recognize, put a name to, and work with feelings
And the thought distortions that go along with this problem is that the person believes they should not express their feelings or that something terrible will happen if they express their feelings.

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Anxiety/fear is not necessarily a thought distortion
Because anxiety and fear are feelings which follow thought distortions.

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those things "could" happen but by learning to stay present/in the "now" one can work to mitigate their likelihood.
Living in the future and not being present is a distortion, possibly just a habit, though. Probably based on feelings. You learn to not be present because it is painful.

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I'm a slob and don't clean so when I see the accumulated mess I worry I'll become an old lady, no friends, living in filth.
Why would you go to therapy for this thought? I'm talking about problems that you go to therapy for.

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Action follows thought and feeling
And feelings and thoughts follow actions. If you clean your house and take care of yourself it makes you feel good. If I kick a dog I will feel bad.

Were you trying to sell me on CBT? I don't disagree with some CBT I just don't think that it can totally extinguish issues. Deeper work is needed IMO.
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