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Old Jul 30, 2012, 03:05 PM
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Originally Posted by farmergirl View Post
Have you actually spent all this time on this forum and not realized that many, many people have no clue that their thoughts are distorted? That seems to be one of the biggest issues I see here: people who believe in their whole hearts that what they are thinking is actual fact and reality when in actuality their thinking is completely messed up by whatever in their life has gotten them into this state. The therapist's real challenge is getting people to recognize their mistakes in thinking so that they aren't slaves to that distorted thinking any longer.

People go into therapy knowing they are miserable or lonely or depressed or manic or anxious or whatever, but generally they are not at all aware that all of these feelings they are having are the direct result of their mistaken thinking about themselves.

So, I'd say people generally go into therapy because they don't like how they are feeling, and it is usually in the process of therapy that they realize how tied they are to their screwed up thinking which is often the result of years and years of going through all sorts of yuck in their lives.
Yes, my years of yuk resulted in distorted thinking about myself (less often, about others), and those distorted thoughts FELT like reality to me. Once I challenged those "assumptions," I began to feel better about who I am, and even the fact that I somehow survived the years of yuk. Now, when I'm feeling anxious or depressed or even jittery, I ask myself, What Am I telling myself that is NOT TRUE, or could be challenged in a sensitive and gentle way (because my parents did not know how to be sensitive or gentle....they were not treated that way themselves but that is another story entirely). This process can actually help me in a very short term way...to arrest the free-fall of a depression and catch it before it catches me.

I'm not saying it's magic or will work for others, just that CBT was one tool that helped, and continues to help me.

Take what you need and leave the rest behind, as they say in some circles.

Thanks....

MCL