I tried getting info through marriage or death records. I have the married name at the time of my abusers mother (so I think her full name) and I have the name of his step father that was married to his mother at the time (for sure!).

At the town hall they asked me what I needed to look up and why. I just said I was looking for someone She then wanted to know if I was a private investigator. I looked at the towns website and told her they can provide info for deaths earlier than 1997 because the death records from 1997 onward contain social security numbers. I told her the approximate years of the death of my abusers mom and they looked up the death records and said there were lots of people with that last name but none with the first name I had. I also went to the town library to see if they had high school yearbooks ( i could look up my abuser by face there but they don't have any yearbooks for the years I need).

I did find 'I think' the location of my abusers step dad but how do I go about calling him and telling him I'm looking for his step son???

I also called an old friend from high school to see if she could help me. I 'bumped' into my abuser when I was in my senior year at a friend of a friends house. I'm going to get the name of my old high school friends friend and hopefully see if I can locate her. She could tell me his name as she was friends with him (he stopped by to see her).

That's all I have for now.

Anyone ever hire a private investigator??? How much does that cost???