Since there's no cure, recovery for me, means understanding and acceptance of my disorders as well as being able to cope with them in the best/healthiest way possible. That is me being 'better'. My disorder recovery inventory is as follows. My bp recovery has taken great strides, I'm at peace with it. I don't like it, it doesn't like me, but we can't escape eachother, so we co-exist. I don't plan to ever engage in ANYTHING remotely romantic again, so that should take care of my bpd, but will need a plan B should I be batshit crazy enough to let myself fall inlove again. My OCD is at its worst during psychotic depressions, and that will HOPEFULLY remain minimal. I usually use music to sooth it tho. Panic attacks usually occur under extreme duress, so hectic stress is now avoided. My suspected IED is non-existant unless provoked by extreme bear pokers, whom I avoid at all cost cos simply, I'm way too pretty for jail ...
Sorry to go off on a tangent like that, the point of my ramble kris, is that only YOU get to set YOUR recovery bar. It doesn't have to be like mine or Jack's or Jill's aunt's. There's no textbook recovery as we are all individual and our disorders present individually...