The other thread about the emotionally absent mother made me think of this article i read a while back. It describes accurately what i and i am guessing a lot of others feel. Emotional hunger! I didn't even know there was a term for it, far less that therapists were aware of it and had coined a term for it!

When i read it i was like "omg, that is exactly how it feels!! and it's not just me! "

That intense drag in the pit of your stomach that radiates into your heart and makes you catch your breath, it hurts and is the loneliest feeling in the world and you actually feel desperate to fill it with something, something that will plug the vast black void that exists within. It's not there every day all the time but sometimes it just catches you unaware and it literally can stop me in my tracks until it passes. I used to ask people if they got that feeling, i called it a "homesick" feeling cos that's the closest thing i could describe it to. Like a yearning or something. Everyone is asked shook their head and looked at me like i was mad when i tried to explain it. Now i know what it is.

Please tell me i'm not alone in this feeling!

It is described below by Dr Firestone;

"Feelings of emotional hunger are deep and are like a dull but powerful aching in your insides. You may often find yourself reaching out and touching others or expressing affection and loving movements in order to attempt to kill off this aching sensation."
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...hunger-vs-love