I think anything new to us, we're uncertain how T will take it? Are they going to run with it and make a big deal of it before we are ready? Will it mean we have to admit we were wrong in some way? To what extent do we feel we are "in charge" of our experience and feelings and what we have to talk about? I remember my T wanted me to breathe deeply with her but I could not; it was like I would feel entrained http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entrainment_(biomusicology) (see "Evolutionary function of entrainment") and not myself/able to break away.