Healing can be very slow; remember that you are slowly getting better? I listen at night sometimes to see if my husband is breathing, we're getting older and he's 7 years older than I am. . .

Some things become habits and, if they bother you, you have to work to replace them with other habits. There are reasons within ourselves why we do things; perhaps I check my husband's breathing when his snoring suddenly stops because he is overweight and I'm afraid he has sleep apnea or perhaps I check because I have asthma/breathing problems of my own and hope/wish someone checks on me?

Accept yourself and your slow progress. See if you can maybe smile/laugh when you catch yourself checking something too often? Remind yourself it happens at specific times (when you first get home) and figure out how to share a little with someone/find comfort for yourself with another.