** a place to park my spare $$

** a kindly voice of reason, for when I get too wrapped up in some event or perception

** a place where I can ask questions I'd never dare ask anyone else

** a chance to talk over problems with someone who has 25+ yrs of helping people with very difficult problems

** a chance to interface with someone who clearly sees me for what I am, and instead of judging/rejecting me, is willing to tell me about it gently enough that I can endure hearing it, and be motivated to work on changing.