Cheer Geez! :-) I hope you're right. I guess that evening was so tough and my t's reaction just made me feel as if I had yet another voice of condemnation to contend with.

Her reaction to other incidents was clear cut but it was just to the parental issue that I got the impression that she thoughts that I was at fault. The question came up again and again i.e. this notion of blame fault responsibility etc. She never gave any definitre answer over the course of 50mins. This led me to believe that she may have been apportioning guilt to me.

Ive neverhad anyone apart from my immediate family justify it all when given the whole story and my t is the only irl person who knows the full story apart from our old family therapist. I suppose I anticpated something other than ... nothing

Cheers Kiki for the support too :-D. For 21 years ive lived with so much crushing guilt and to hear that that behaviour is wrong is a beautiful relief. For some reason though I cant shake this feeling that its still my fault. I guess I wanted real world confirmation and not receiving it confirmed my worst fears.