Is it possible to have been abused without being abused. Growing up, some things that were very wrong morally were done to me and my siblings, but they those never quite fit the "legal" definition of sexual or physical abuse and neglect. Because of that, nothing could be done such as with children's services or court. So could it be possible to have been abused without being abused? Would it even be called abuse if it isn't legally? How does a person heal from it without knowing what it was?