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Aug 02, 2012, 02:45 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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There are people who just cannot take confrontation. When you kind of "back them into a corner" they retreat -- they feel trapped, and so they run for the hills.
Why not wait until she comes to you and tells you how she feels. As far as the advice she gave you about the other friend, and you not wanting to do it - and then she gets all huffy cause you asked her and then didn't take her advice. Why ask her about her "feelings?" They were obvious, weren't they? She was annoyed that you ask her advice, and then don't take it --- do you do that often? It doesn't matter anyway.
Some people just don't like to be asked about their "feelings" all of a sudden. It's like being caught in an animal trap -- you can't get out! You aren't prepared to talk about it. You may not even KNOW how you feel at the moment. So it isn't really fair or shall I say "socially acceptable?" to ask someone out of the blue what their feelings are. They have no idea! Especially if it's right after a confrontation!! 
So in the future, let HER tell you how she feels. I'm sure she will when she feels more comfortable about it. But don't keep hounding her about it or she never will open up to you.
I hope you two can get back on track. A friend is a special thing, and it would be tragic to lose this friendship over something so simple, especially since you two have been friends for so long. God bless and please take care. Big hugs, Lee 
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