WOW. That is NOT okay. That's emotional abuse. And "wandering hands"? And making comments about your sisters "nice body" and "nice breast". In my opinion, that would definitely be considered sexual abuse. Not severe, but a form of sexual abuse. A good way to deal with it, is to accept that it happened. The next step is to talk about it. Talking about it will help A LOT. But, it will get worse before it gets better. Another thing is to go to counseling. You just need to let it out. But, let yourself know that nothing that happened was your fault, and that you didn't deserve that, and you're better than that. Your father is horrible for doing that. But you do need to forgive him. It'll be hard, but you can't hold any kind of hatred in. It'll make it worse. I hope everything gets better, and i'm so sorry that, those things happened to you.