We talk a lot about therapy being a place to learn to ask for what we need, and experience our needs being met. I am quite good(!) at asking for what I need with partners and with T, to the point of almost orchestrating the whole thing. I think it's because I don't trust others to know me well enough to be able to identify what I need, or to be attuned enough to do it at the right time. This has come up in therapy recently and I know T is right about me, but I'm just so flooded with shame about it it's like I lose my ability to think or function. I just wondered if anyone else has similar problems?